Early on I made promise that I would never blog about civil rights or gay rights or any rights at all. I stated I would never make a post about poverty, and yet there is one sitting in my drafts, waiting to be finished. I swore there would never be a politics tag on my blog for one simple reason: I have learning comprehension issues and there is a huge chance I will come off looking like an asshole when I’m not trying to be.
Then, on June 26th, 2015, the United States of America legalised same-sex marriage in the remaining 14 states that previously issued a ban on same-sex marriage. Now – legally – same-sex partners can be married in all 50 states.
While my Facebook newsfeed erupted in rainbows (profile pictures being changed via Facebook.com/CelebratePride or via Photoshop), rainbow emoticons and rainbows being spammed everywhere in text messages, in emails. It was amazing and my eyes may have sweated a little. I was excited for the United States. I even waited until my best friend woke up to tell her the news (even though she lives out here in Canada with me):
This is a big fucking deal and should be celebrated world-wide, as far as I’m concerned. I realise, there is still so much hatred going down with arsonists burning black churches, black men being gunned down by police or the Charleston massacre. However, dwelling on the dark won’t do anything. Groups like Anon are trying to get people pissed off and all it’s doing is bringing out the keyboard warriors. If you’re a keyboard warrior, stop following me RIGHT NOW. Either get up and do something or shut the fuck up. You’re just further creating hatred and it doesn’t do anything to try and help make the subtle changes that one person can make in order to make a difference. However, that is not why I’m here.
Back to the topic at hand:
Canada fully legalised same sex marriage on July 20, 2005 – TEN YEARS AGO. Prior to that, we have had nationwide socialised healthcare for 49 years – since 1966. We don’t promote hate. We don’t pretend to be better than other countries because we’re “head of the times”. We welcome newcomers with open arms.
The majority of my Facebook friends are US folk, with one from Sweden, two from Australia and a few from Canada (like myself). Guess which cluster of friends posts the most about shady cops, poor healthcare (with sickening proof) and the biggest setbacks (ie, racial issues, poverty) in the supposed land of the free, home of the brave? Guess which country is hiding behind guns rather than standing up and doing something to change all of this hatred and mistreatment of everyone? Yeah:
The country with a tolerance problem.
The country with a gun problem.
The country that is hell-bent (lack of a better term) to strike the fear of G-D into everyone.
The country that mostly stated it would come to Canada now that the US passed same-sex marriage in all 50 states.
I’m excited that I was able to olive to see gay marriage legalised everywhere (almost everywhere). I’m not happy to have lived through terrorism (9/11 and it’s fallout), nor am I happy to see what looks like an extremely huge setback for black rights. Someone, somewhere, posted that all of the children being born today (‘today’ used loosely) will grow up to likely, see the world fall apart completely.
I hope that I am long dead by then because that would break my heart more than the things I am seeing now. Trouble is everywhere; Canada likely has it’s own trouble but there is little that makes me want to move to the USA, and I feel like if I truly had to [move to the US], I would have a better chance moving to Russia or the Ukraine when I finally visit Chernobyl, than to live in the ‘States.
There is so much hatred and bigotry the country promotes and the funny thing? I have met the most amazing people out of that country and it boggles my mind to watch them be hurt repeatedly by having benefits stripped away or stripped down to nothing; to see them struggle with healthcare and racially motivated crimes.
It’s sick, but at the end of the day, I am going to simply focus on the rainbows. Focus on the tiny bit of happiness we’ve had. Not the fact that the Confederate flag is still being flown. My therapist said something good the other day: after 9pm, stop worrying about your problems – it’s too late to do anything about it. She’s right. There is nothing I can do for what’s going on in the US – at least not yet 0 so I’m going to stop worrying until there is something I can do.
And for those of you about to be married: CONGRATULATIONS! I love you all.